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Does being “that boy’s” parent have you frozen in hopelessness?
The belief that you must be doing something wrong.
The shame and embarrassment about what others might be thinking.
I so get it!
I, too, was the mom of “that boy.” And it was hard in a way that only we get.
The calls home from school. The dread of social gatherings. The whispers of other parents as we approach.
Maybe you can relate?
Feeling like you’re on constant damage control?
Worried about your boy’s anger, his upsets, his future?
Exhausted from trying to fix him and from struggling to keep your cool (when he’s lost his)?
I’m guessing you’re not sleeping long enough or well enough and that you’re feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve tried everything.
I’d also bet that you’re not having much fun at all parenting that boy of yours, and that any and all passions that fuel your soul and make you feel alive seem a dull flicker from a past life.
Like you, I understood that my boy’s behaviors were a problem. But I also recognized that there was a sweet boy underneath those challenging behaviors, and I was determined to dig him out!
I was also well aware that my boy being labeled as “the bully,” “the troublemaker,” “the class clown,” or worse at such a young age could have tragic effects on his self-esteem, his social life, his academic success, and his ability to live that big, meaningful life I so wanted for him.
On the hardest of days, the thought that kept me going was “No one else is going to take this on. I’m his only chance.”
If everyone else was exasperated, out of ideas, and content with punishing my boy and calling it a day, I was hot blooded, full of conviction, and ready to fight for my boy – peacefully.
Regardless of his behaviors, he deserved the help of us adults.
And your boy does too!
It took me learning some simple but powerful parenting tools and getting solid support for myself to help my boy move beyond those behaviors and for me to become the advocate that he needed.
But I did it. And you can too.
Here’s the bottom line – and you can always trust me to tell it like it is…
Your boy needs help. AND you’re the perfect person for the job!
I’ve helped thousands of other parents learn to peacefully parent their not-so-peaceful boys.
What do you say you’re next?
Do it for your sweet boy.
He needs you.
And together we can do hard things!
Want my official speaker and workshop bio?
Tosha is mom to three boys and an advocate for boys and their families. She is on a mission to create a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time by supporting you to care for yourself, connect with your boy deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly!
She brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.
Through her online community and courses, Tosha helps break the isolation of modern parenting and lifts your confidence so you’re better equipped to face the challenges of raising young boys.
Tosha is the creator of all things Parenting Boys Peacefully, including “Parenting Boys Peacefully: A 10-Day Reconnect,” an online group experience shared by over 15,000 parents worldwide. She is also a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges.” Tosha is also a frequent guest expert on podcasts and online and in-person conferences.
Oh! And if it makes you feel better, Tosha’s got some letters after her name…She holds a BA in Women’s Studies & Language Studies from UCSC, an MA in Applied Linguistics and a certificate in TESOL from UCLA, and is a certified trainer of instructors in Hand in Hand Parenting.
How would you like to start?
Stop the Aggression
Aggression can feel scary. And it doesn’t generally go away on it’s own. But we can stop it. Let’s get strategic.
Get Some Cooperation
More frustrating than asking something of that boy 100 times, only to have it not happen? Can’t think of much… Let’s try something different.
Learn to Stay Calm
Sometimes it’s our own struggle to navigate parenting challenges peacefully that is wreaking havoc on the family. We can help.